Although most people say that looks are not important, research shows that is not so. In a number of studies repeated the following form: when they ask respondents whether how someone looks is important, most of them say no, but when you put them in a situation to choose, they choose the most physically attractive person.
Physical appearance is not important, or at least not a crucial factor in maintaining relationships, but it is important in the first contact. Physical appearance is something that, whether we like it or not, other people will notice first. Many of you will say, "But I want someone to love me for who I am, not because of how I look." As it is an either-or situation. You are either pretty or nice person. And that's not true. All combinations are possible: that someone is a bad person and good looking, nice person and good looking, the bad person and the ugly and the bad person and good looking. If in this equation we introduce the wit, the same rules remain. Someone can be beautiful, smart and a good person, nice, stupid, bad man, etc.. The illusion of choice between beauty and brains is more common in women, and therefore many wonderful women who have much to offer, not only does not stand out but sometimes conceal their physical beauty. They refuse to put the makeup on, not wear skirts, dresses, high heels, will not wear long hair ... just because they don`t to be put in the category of "a pretty stupid / superficial."
If you accept that it is important how you look, and pay attention to that aspect of your being, you increase the chance to make more people interested in zou, and therefore have a bigger and better selection of potential candidates for the relationship. This is true for both men and women.
This does not mean that you should go for plastic surgery to fit in the current aesthetic trends, nor to dress in the latest fashion.
That means taking care to highlight what is beautiful on you, and how you dress reflects your personality.
When women emphasize their femininity, they become more attractive to men. When men emphasize their masculinity, they become more attractive to women.
It does not make zou a superficial person, nor will it reduce your inner qualities. On the contrary, it will enrich you for another dimension-besides being a pleasant company, you'll be pleasant to look at.
Most people do not make a distinction between beauty and attractiveness. Beauty is such a subjective category we know, every society and every era has its own criteria. And individuals differ in to what is good. One may look nice, have a good looking body, has regular features, nicely dressed and noone approaches them. There are many people who conclude on the basis that they are not beautiful, or that something is wrong with them.
Are we going to be attractive to others does not depend on our physical characteristics, it depends on our attitude.
It depends on what we think about our appearance, if we believe that we are beautiful most others will perceive us that way.
The second, more important factor is the attractiveness of nonverbal messages you send to others about whether to approach us or not. Other people feel if you are open to communication, and on that basis, usually unconsciously, decide whether or not to approach you. If someone seems distant and closed, others will take that as a "do not come near me," and will save themselfs a potential rejection.
The most important attraction factor is how you feel about yourself. If you feel comfortable in your own skin, if you like the life you live and if you think of yourself that you have something to offer to others, you will be charming and attractive. Nonverbal messages you send, "I'm worth getting to know people and it is worth spending time with me."